Ritika Ruminates

After how the police and Karnataka government cancelled Munawar Faruqui's show in Bangalore, it raises the question- is it right to suppress the show over something they 'might' have said? Or what it seems like, religion of the artist? The same set was performed by Munawar thrice before in Bangalore city, so why it was now cancelled?  Surely, if someone (any artist or ANY other person) is passing negative or shaming comments against any person, profession, religion, gender, caste, race, LGBTQIA+ community, etc, they must be criticised. And if it gets too toxic, it's ok if they are taken out of power or their work is stopped. No, I am not fan of Munawar. I haven't even seen any of his videos. But people are more aware now. If someone passes any toxic or shaming comment, they will be criticized or even trolled.  But when they didn't cancelled his show thrice before in the same city, what happened this before?  Before cancelling someone's show or suppressing th...

Image Source- Shutterstock I was reading Tahira Kashyap Khurrana's book 'The 7 Sins Of Being A Mother' and the chapter of Submission, which deals with her anecdote of facing bullying as a child. That inspired me to write this blogpost to share about my anecdote of having to deal with bullying as well, something that I had hardly ever spoken about.  Bullying has long existed in schools, colleges and sometimes even in workplaces (some people never really grow up). Bullying in childhood can have mental and emotional effects on the victim, well into their adulthood. Sometimes the childhood bullying can even turn into physical and/or sexual abuse based on physical appearance, mental health issues, race, ethnicity, religion, caste, family background, gender, sexual preferences, origin, physical disability, etc. Some of the effects of bullying on the victims are: Difficulty trusting one's own self and others, leading to having issues making friends, romantic partners and other...

Image source- Al Jazeera Image Source-YouTube/Brut     With the Centre saying Delhi High Court that a marriage is between biological man and biological woman,  it raises yet another question- why cannot gay and lesbian couples marry? Back in February of probably this year, Centre, seeking dismissal of petition of legalization of homosexual marriages, argued that a marriage in India necessarily depends upon 'age-old customs, rituals, practices, cultural ethos and societal values' and that living together as partners and having a sexual relationship by same-sex individuals is "not comparable" with the "Indian family unit concept" of  a husband, wife and children. Well, when it comes to age old traditions of India,  here  is a video by Dr.Tanaya Narendra (aka DrCuterus) about the progressive culture of ancient India when it came to homosexuality and other things. India had been very progressive about homosexuality before Britishers colonised India and passed S...

Image source- Hindustan Times After recently finishing watching the 4th (and the last) season of Little Things, it makes all the sense why Gen Z is idolizing Dhruv Vats and Kavya Kulkarni as a couple. Little Things is a series, spanning over 4 seasons, about a modern day couple Dhruv and Kavya who are navigating their lives as individuals and also their relationship. The beauty of this series is that it depicts the small yet beautiful things of a relationship, away from grand and cliche bollywood love stories. And making live-in relationships more acceptable in Indian society, especially among the Gen Z. A couple that had had their own episodes of live-in as well as long distance and yet sticking together happily, they give major couple goals. They make even the smallest and little of the things look cute, caring and romantic.  They have depicted  modern-day relationships  very rightly and in a healthy way. Like what relationships are supposed to be in founda...

After  Karnataka's health minister Dr.K Sudhakar's comment  on woman not wanting to get married and not wanting to have kids, much in a judgemental and shaming way, this raises another question- why do we feel it's valid to interfere in woman's personal choices about marriage and kids, like we own their bodies?  It's okay if one wishes to get married at some point and wish to have kids. But it's also okay to - not wish to get married and not have kids or get married and not have kids or not get married and have kids.  As long as the individual consents to it, is willing to take the risks associated and responsibilities that come with marriage and kids, and are informed about the pros and cons of each choice. It's not only the western influence because of which woman wishes to not get married and not have kids. Now a days, even many men do not ever wish to get married or have kids. And as long as you want it, are informed about the pros and cons and are will...

Image source- Electric Literature I know you would see similar blogposts in many sites. But here's my experience with having to lend my books and not getting it back in same condition (or not at all). Being a hardcore book lover, books are one of the reason of my heartbeats and with our books away, we feel empty inside our soul. Even if that book wasn't so close to us. There are many reasons and personal experiences that I have (almost) stopped lending books to people. Books are mostly lent only to those who buy books of their own and share the same passion for books, keeping them safely like a treasure. So here are some experiences- Not getting book back at all or really really late - I had lent a book to someone I used to know and I hadn't had gotten the book for months. If you borrow someone's book, read the book asap and give them the book back in same condition. And if you happen to carelessly lost the book (it dare not be a signed copy!), purchase another unused c...

Image source- SheThePeople After women being asked (a.k.a pressurize, forced or manipulated) to marry, the big another pretty unrealistic expectation of society is for women to drastically change themselves into some other woman altogether. Those distant relatives whose face you see once in three years, neighbors and the society, and sometimes even parents and in-laws start acting like they own the woman and have every right to pass judgments on her, and give advice she never asked for in the first place. But what is up with asking women to change so drastically after marriage? And why aren’t men expected to change either after getting married? A few changes here and there are expected and understandable after the big step in life. But asking or expecting a woman to change altogether after marriage is something very unrealistic and toxic, which might even end up causing mental health issues in the woman and a bruised ego to the society if she denies to follow. Not just the women who ar...

Rapes and sexual harrassments were all very heartbreaking and shocking, but what's recently turning into worse is that  in many recent cases, minors are perpetrators too.  The innocent souls are turning into rapists just as well. Where is the society even going? With the new technology and more open-mindedness with the passing time, it was expected that rape rates would go down. But what's disheartening is that not only adults, but now even minors are raping others. What's the use of all the education if this is where the minors of our country are heading towards? With early access to social media and absence of age appropriate sex education at our homes and school, the children are now getting easy access to adult contents on social media sites, which are unfortunately majority of the times sexually objectifying, misogynist or phobic towards LGBTQIA+ community. The more content we consume of, we subconsciously start thinking on similar lines. If a minor gets access to meme...

Image source: Hidden Gems Books Recently I have came across this reel which shows where you can read the book for free or sites which gives free PDFs of novels. But why is such that we expect books for free? Many of the free book apps that you would see on Playstore or Apple Store, that gives books for free wouldn't pay royalties to authors. Earlier, there was this famous app named AnyBooks. I am guilty of using it earlier too, but then stopped using it (after seeing IG stories of author Preeti Shenoy about it). The worse are the PDF versions of the books available on the internet and Telegram for free. Both of these are piracy of a book, and so a punishable act. And disrespect to the author's hardwork in writing that book. On Twitter, once I had even saw someone's tweet saying that books are to be available for free. But why? An author puts so much hardwork and creativity into the book and they deserve to get the money. Authors make their living with words and ...

Image Source- VideoHive Recently,  UP Women Commission member have stated that girls using phone have lead to rapes . What more shocking is that this statement comes from a woman herself. Along with blaming girls for using phones, she has even blamed 'carelessness' of mothers for increase in rape cases. Question that arises is- aren't even babies to school girls to old age women who don't use phones, have been victims of rape? What the phones have to do with rapes? Yes, online sexual harrassments (in forms of morphed pics, sending non consenual pics of genitals, etc) do happen due to phone and social media. But if both boys and girls are taught to be respectful of others and their consent and be precautions on social media, then it would be reduced a lot.  About her eloping statement, not everyone elopes. And some do due to controlling and toxic parents who refuses to accept their relationship due to societal standards, caste and religious differences. Checking kid'...