Respecting personal boundaries

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Be it violating privacy of Anushka Sharma-Virat Kohli (congratulations to them for the baby) to literally any other couple, we Indians are pretty great at it. Paparazzi to gossip gangs to judgemental mouths, a couple's privacy isn't respected. Some will follow them openly or secretly better than a chameleon, judging their relationship, scaring the newlyweds with "This is it. Ab toh shaadi ho chuki hai" to asking them the Indian standard question (soon after marriage) - "Koi good news?". If we didn't get the privacy to lock our doors in our teenage, let's ruin the privacy of other couples. 

I recently read this book by Ravinder Singh named 'This Love That Feels Right'. It speaks about freedom in relationships, emotional support, satisfaction in relationship and extra marital affairs. It also gives message on how we should not judge other's relationships.

We will judge a couple if they do not have kid soon after marriage and give unasked advice for them to consult babas and doctors. We will judge a couple to willingly and consensually marrying outside their community. We will judge them for consensually and willingly getting into any type of modern relationships- open marriage, friends with benefits, pre marital sex, hookups and what not. IF they are ADULTS and MATURE enough, they would they what they are stepping into, its pros and cons and can take the responsibility of their actions. This includes everyone, even your own kid or siblings. 

Public Display of Affection is another issue (I agree that there is a limit for PDA as well). Many even has issues with holding hands or hugging in public. My advice- If you are that person, do not visit western countries.

And this is just not for couples, but for everyone. Each and every person. Stop asking them questions related to their personal life if they are not interested/hesitant and do not judge them for their choices.

Let us respect the personal boundary of a person/ couple. If you can't accept their decisions, don't say anything. And if you cannot digest the fact, well, pop a Crocin and keep unasked advice within your stomach (Well, I know that crocin should not be used for indigestion. But you will relate to this if you are middle class Indian. If not, well, watch this video- Middle Class Things We All Do).

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Hello, I am Ritika Jakhotiya, the blogger behind Ritika Ruminates. I am an English graduate and currently pursuing an M.A. in English. I love reading and writing. Ritika Ruminates (formerly 'Blogging With Ritz') is my personal blog site, where I write about things close to my heart (and mind) and dish out my thoughts on topics that concern me or inspire my creativity. These topics include books, cinema, feminism, social themes/taboos, and travel. Before you leave, please hit the follow button and subscribe to get notified about new blog posts and share the post with others. I also create content (as a reader) on my Instagram @thisisritika_j, where I share book reviews, relatable memes and reels.

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  1. Sanjana KesharwaniJanuary 13, 2021 at 12:04 PM

    Great blog Ritz👍✌️ Even I face problems to be affectionate towards my own boyfriend just because of this bloody society and family fear😑🤷

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  2. Ritika RuminatesJanuary 13, 2021 at 1:11 PM

    Thanks Sanjana. And I understand that issue. Many face that. Hope this problem gets over.

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