Let's start accepting PDA

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Image source- IG account writer_sahab

I came across this post on Instagram by IG account named writer_sahab and this holds so true. Public Display of Affection (PDA) is very much looked at as a rude thing to do in India (and many other orthodox countries), don't know why. People look at it as its disgusting. 

In our country, if any couple, married or unmarried, does PDA, they are looked at with disgusted looks by the public around, like they would be beaten up any moment. LGBT+ couple is far away from getting into PDA in India when even straight couples are looked at with disgusted looks if they get into PDA. There have been so many incidents where the couple were beaten up just because they got themselves involved in PDA. Most known one is the Kolkata metro case where a young couple were badly beaten up by elders just because they hugged or so in the metro. Like seriously!? What's the need to harm someone this bad only because they showed affection for each other in public? 

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In our country, a male can unzip his pants and pee in a public place (they really need to get a washroom) but a couple can't show their affection in public. What logic is that? The public can look at some woman being beaten by her husband/ boyfriend or any male at a public place (or vice versa) but cannot tolerate PDA. They can even see someone being eve teased, cat-called, harassed or even raped but would not say anything there but when it comes to PDA, they will raise their voices. They will turn into another Bajrang Dal (seriously, why such groups are even made?🤦🤷). 

Why do people have issues accepting PDA? What is wrong with someone showing their affection for their partner in public? Yes, I agree that couple should know their limits in PDA as well, which mature and the sensible couple do have mostly. Mature couples do know in which places and situations they can get into PDA (not at some religious place unless maybe they are getting married, depending upon what that religion allows). PDA should not get excessive either. Just keep it to holding hands, hugs, hands around the waist or shoulder and forehead/ cheek/ lip/ hand kiss. But the public should be accepting of PDA as well. If you cannot react it in a good way, do not react in any rude or disrespecting way either. Do not react at all if the couple is having it within the limit. If they go overboard, you can just politely tell them rather than attacking them. There is no Bajrang Dal there.

Well, if you are against PDA and think of even visiting Europe, American countries (both North and South America) and Australia, I would suggest that you don't visit there. PDA is very common in those countries and if you pass any rude comment, you might be answered back and if you get violent, might even get ready to end up in jail. 

             Neighbour aunty secretly looking at me talking to my friend.
Me next day- My love story has become famous
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(Relative can be replaced by any other person)
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Image source- Alok Singh

Now there are some random aunties and uncles, neighbours or relatives (or anyone for that matter) who just know to gossip and complain. If they see a known person, let's call that person A (mostly a teenager or someone younger to them) with a person of the opposite gender, assuming that person is bf/gf to A, they will start gossiping and will inform the parents of A. Now, a friendly realization that A dislikes/ hates you if you are the one gossiping and spreading information about it. Who asked you to start gossiping and go to inform it's parents or someone elder? You could have kept it to yourself. They stalk that person in real and maybe social media, giving no privacy. You have no idea how your one gossip, rumour or unnecessary complaint can affect someone's personal life and even mental and emotional health. You have no right to do that if it is not YOUR kid, and even if it is your own kid, it's their personal life. You can politely ask them about it if you see them with any girl/boy and have questions about it. 

Let's start accepting PDA. Do not give couples a disgusting or rude look, do not comment anything rude and surely do not get violent over PDA. Couples should also know the limit in which they should be doing PDA. 


Hello, I am Ritika Jakhotiya, the blogger behind Ritika Ruminates. I am an English graduate and currently pursuing an M.A. in English. I love reading and writing. Ritika Ruminates (formerly 'Blogging With Ritz') is my personal blog site, where I write about things close to my heart (and mind) and dish out my thoughts on topics that concern me or inspire my creativity. These topics include books, cinema, feminism, social themes/taboos, and travel. Before you leave, please hit the follow button and subscribe to get notified about new blog posts and share the post with others. I also create content (as a reader) on my Instagram @thisisritika_j, where I share book reviews, relatable memes and reels.

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