Mental peace and sense of fulfilment

We have been taught from childhood about hard work, and as we grow up, getting good grades, earning money,  earning 'reputation in the society', etc. But why were we never taught about a sense of fulfilment, about satisfaction, mental peace, and even smart work for that matter? That where do we have to invest our hard work into? Hard work is good if it is in a suitable direction for you which gives you mental peace, fulfilment and satisfaction. Cause if the hard work is invested in a direction which does not give you mental peace, fulfilment and satisfaction are wasted. Hard work in a part of smart work. You should know how much hard work to invest in, in what direction, etc. Mental peace, fulfilment, satisfaction and hard work are not only needed in professional life but in personal life as well. We have to put the right amount of hard work and smart work in our careers and our relationships to make them work and give us a sense of satisfaction and fulfilment. The hard work you are putting in should give you mental peace, satisfaction and fulfilment other than materialistic achievements, else you might feel unsatisfied or not fulfilled from within. This is something to remember- no amount of materialistic things, money, fame etc can replace the satisfaction which comes from within. You can take examples of many people who achieved so much in their career yet were not satisfied from within, and might had even committed suicide. Your career and relationships (in which you invest your time and efforts) should give you mental peace and sense of satisfaction and fulfilment. Do not run behind money, fame etc, but look out for mental peace, satisfaction and fulfilment cause these 3 things would go long way and give you happiness. Money is responsible to sustain your life, provide you necessary goods and even luxury, let it do its work. You focus on mental peace, satisfaction and fulfilment. It is because even if you have access to all the luxuries like exotic places for vacations, luxury cars, mansions like homes etc and you don't have mental peace, satisfaction and fulfilment, you would not be happy (maybe for a temporary time) with it, that too in a long run. Age from 16-25 is very crucial where you invest your hard work into, in which career and relationships, how much hard work you put cause it will be the foundation of your future. The choice of career (not illegal or in immoral ways though) and people (not toxic people) you would choose should give a sense of fulfilment. When it comes to relationships, you should not choose people for their money, but their personality- who would respect you, accept you the way you are, non-abusive in anyways, non-toxic, should understand you and support you in right things and correct you when you go wrong. It would be your responsibility too to give them mental peace, that you are not being a person who is hampering their mental peace.

So when you would select a career, a business/ job and relationship, think about these things-

1. Is this a career field which would give you a sense of satisfaction, in present and hopefully in future too (you cannot keep changing your career field obviously)? 

2. Will this career give you happiness, in present and in the long run? If it is yes, then good. If not, think again of your choices.

3. Are you only opting for a career field or getting into a relationship due to the 'normal' timeline of people (like work at 21, marriage at 25, kids by 26-28 and then wait for retirement), peer pressure, family pressure or societal pressure? Don't get into it! You are not in any rat race (you are a human, not a rat either). Everyone's timeline and life story are different. You are living your life and the choice is yours. You are the writer of your story, not others. So don't let pressure from others mould your story or timeline according to them.

4. Is that person respectful and not a headache or poison for you? You would not want a toxic relationship (if you are in a toxic relationship, get out of it). Does that person respect you, accept you, understand you, is grateful to have you (there are many other things which comes into a relationship category, varying upon the type of relationships). Do not entertain toxic people in your life. Your mental health and self-respect are more important than any kind of relationship (friendship, romantic relationship, family/ relatives, professional relationships etc). Cut out toxic people or if you cannot, then avoid them. And welcome respectful people who would respect you, understand you, are non-abusive etc.

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